Many people experience some type of wounding during early development and learn to manage their emotions, but sometimes it gets the better of them. Want to know more and better understand? You find yourself doing the very things you determine not to do and do not do the things that you desire to do. How does that happen? Maybe family scripts? The baton unwittingly passed on. Will you in turn pass the baton on as well?
You can see repeated patterns in your past. The problems are often a recreation of unresolved and unprocessed childhood issues. If you could locate them, you would have done so by now and healed yourself. There is often a massive connection between the adult self and the unfinished and unresolved, unexplained business of childhood. There are patterns aimed at repairing past painful or traumatic events from childhood. If you think you have few memories from childhood, that in itself is very significant!
It is estimated that over 90% of Couples Partnerships and Marriage conflicts are around trying to get individual Core Emotional Needs met. This includes the individuals resort to Fight, Flight and/or Freeze. Alongside that, the individual often find themself compromising, trashing and undermining their dearly held “Values”, which (in other situations) they would not contemplate doing).