Work With An Experienced Therapist.


The Kairos Centre team have vast combined career experience in law, counselling, mediation,
coaching, mentoring, training and psychology. 

Choosing the right Therapist

What should I consider when considering my choice of relationship counsellor or sex therapists? The best outcomes are all about what we call the therapeutic alliance or relationship (the bond which develops) with the therapist. Pay a lot of attention to it during the first initial assessment. Then reflect upon it after the session. Go with what your instinct is telling you! You can afterward try a different therapist. You are not committed until you feel comfortable.

Consider the type of issue and the experience of the sex therapist in that area. Consider the model of counseling you think is most suited to you. If you are unsure, then let us help you.

Gary McFarlane
Gary McFarlaneSenior Therapist and Kairos Centre Founder
Gary’s work is predominantly by Skype/Vsee with clients all over the country and abroad, specialising in relationship issues, sex therapy, sex addiction and Love addiction (having undertaken a full one year certificate training in sex & love addiction, including working with partners of sex addicts). Also the service facilitates women partners (of male sex addicts) only groups and will host an annual sex addiction clients one day conference.

We have a global reach with therapists based throughout the UK.

Wherever you are in the world we can help you. We are experts in online therapy and we can arrange a consultation no matter where you are in the world. Our UK centres provide individually tailored sex addiction therapy and porn addiction counselling services nationally and overseas. We also provide expert support for partners and couple counselling and The Kairos Centre can bring on board other skilled Therapists were the need arises.


Our Books


The Art of Loving – Gary McFarlane

The Art of Loving A Book for singles, partners, marrieds and for those thinking of or preparing for marriage. If you want to refresh, revitalize, rekindle, refresh, resurrect your relationship; if you are about to enter a relationship or marriage; long time in a relationship or very very long term married or in a relationship, then this book is for you! It has the insights to improve and make even better, that which is already good! It is an educational book and at the same time provides self-help tools to help you in your current or future relationship – from an experienced Relationship Therapist, sex Therapist and sex Addiction Therapist. What do you do and what happens when your whole world – as you know it – comes toppling down?


Song of Solomon for Lovers – Gary McFarlane

Sex goes wrong. It does not always work. It does not always click into place. The “No, No, No” and “don’t, don’t, don’t” before marriage, becomes “yes, yes, yes” after marriage, but so often and too often the “how, how, how” is missing from any guidance and pre-marriage preparation. Myths, misunderstandings, misinformation, misdirection and repeated practice, becomes entrenched and sex no longer holds the pleasure it once promised. Recapture it. Get it for the first time. Your enthusiasm that is! That sex can be great – when practiced in the context that God designed it and when His instruction manual is followed and practiced.

Sex Therapist Beliefs

There are many relationship therapists, sex counsellors and sex therapists, as well as agencies and organisations. Kairos is distinctive because of the specialisms not so easily found in one person or one organization. Kairos does not hide the fact that peoples of faith, religion, particularly Christians are under represented for choice of Counsellors/therapists and where they express a preference for a counsellor with a faith, religious or Christian ethos Kairos can provide for their needs.

Our business atmosphere must be relaxing (in the midst of clients feeling that their world is upside down and far from relaxed) so that it is conducive and resonates a sense of “all will be well – you are in the right place”.

  • The Kairos Centre was established upon a verse in The Bible, that says: “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full”.


  • Kairos is a Greek word for: “Your proper, appointed, opportune time to take action”.

Sex Therapist Values

To provide a Counselling & Therapy service accessible online or face to face using various mediums from all parts of the UK and abroad, to those with life’s issues which need improvement so that individuals live life, fulfilling their best potential.

Kairos will be at the cutting edge of societal changes and needs expectations therefore we will be ever ready. We care about people and the quality of their relationships. Most of us accept a lower quality of relationships than we should expect. Change is in your hands and only your hands.

We are highly trained professionals, with a huge amount of experience in what we do. Our hallmark customer experience is built on exceptional personalised services and the strictest confidentiality at all times.

The Kairos centre experience will be Counselling without shame – bringing colour back to life.