Anger, Resentment, Rage, Revenge as an outlet or is it more about Powerlessness & Fear?
Handle the emotions; Release the emotions – Differently.
Anger is not to be condemned or quashed. It is an appropriate physiological response, but being manifested in an inappropriate manner.
Anger Management skills is not really the answer. Deal with the underlying – why do I do what I do?
It is a coping strategy set up in the earlier years of childhood development. That childhood development period holds the clues, if you go looking.
“Trauma is the external wound, not the internal event” – Gabor Mate
“Trauma is a story that has not moved on”. It is a “story” because of the truths that your brain made of the event when it unfolded; but it may not be the full reality because of the compromised brain functioning at the time of the event – but it is set up in the body – from what all five senses took in at the time.
Then address the underlying – “Why I do Anger expression the way that I do it” – using this thing called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing).
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. Repeated studies show that by using EMDR therapy people can experience the benefits of psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference.
Contact me at The Kairos Centre for some information. I have treated many with Anger issues, in this way and it just works.