Finding out about sex/porn/love addiction is traumatic. The behaviour is an assault on the relationship. The same is true for Affairs, cheating, poor communication and numerous other assaults on the couple’s relationship.
The issues are more than a “pinch”. They are serious “crunches”. As painful a crunch as a Rottweiler dog getting its jaws locked in the bump cheeks! It hurts; a lot; an awful lot. Trust is undermined. A defensive way of interacting (to protect self from further hurt) is the order of the day and Emotional Disengagement is taking a toll. History together is questioned. Memories become distorted. The best years of one’s life given to a person you no longer feel that you know and could really have known.
The wedding photo album takes on a different meaning. The other person is viewed through a different lens. There is a mourning the relationship, which may end, unless drastic help is provided – very quickly. How do you recover. Hopeless and no visible future, necessitates thoughts of surviving and re-building alone.
Contact us before you make any immediate bridge burning decisions, even if you don’t know what you want and love is lost in the ether. You owe it to self, your partner, any children, the extended family, to make your decision from an informed place.
The sessions do not presume that the couple have decided to stay together. Far from it. Breaking up may be the preferred option. Still – come on this course and go on a journey, so that at completion, your decision is from an informed place and is based on accurate knowledge and truths.
