Project Description


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Sex, Porn and Love Addiction Therapy

The Sex and/or Love addiction Recovery program

(Rewiring the addicted brain – from our evolving knowledge of Neuroscience)

Addiction process is an interaction of impairments in three fundamental systems: Affect regulation, Motivation-reward and Behavioural inhibition. Treatment is focused on all three areas and so where there are unresolved past childhood issues, we will suggest consider EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) before moving on to the contents of this Recovery Programme. Then the client is in a better resourced, equipped and healed place to break the addiction.

Program content:

  • Extensive history taking
  • Feedback
  • Sexual imprinting, Homeostasis & Cognitive neural restructuring
  • The Couple Recovery plan
  • Porn blockers, restrictions and controls
  • Article: “What I wish I’d known before watching porn”
  • Sex & the internet
  • Harmful consequences
  • A.I.N
  • Hollywood greats
  • 12 steps group research and attendance
  • The Recovery Process
  • Euphoric Sensation Release Protocol (Urge reduction)
  • Connecting feeling/urge with consequences (with EMDR techniques)
  • The Pillars
  • Partners and effect on them
  • Managing disclosure to a partner
  • Stages of change: The change process
  • Motivational interviewing
  • Urge Surfing & Mindfulness
  • Resource Tapping for urges & cravings
  • 3 Circles exercise
  • Rate the risk you are taking with your addiction
  • Top 3 core emotional needs
  • My top 5 Values
  • What emotional purpose does the addiction play in your life
  • Cycle of sex/love addiction
  • Johari’s window
  • Creating new thinking (Cognitive) and new neural pathways (Behaviours)
  • Identifying your triggers
  • Avoiding emotional & environmental triggers
  • CBT: Core Beliefs, Intermediate Beliefs & Automatic thoughts
  • More Cognitive neural restructuring
  • Recognising cognitive distortions
  • The Brain & Biochemistry
  • Trauma: Victim/Persecutor/Rescuer & Trauma egg
  • U.N
  • My life without sex/love addiction
  • Relapse prevention Assignments:
    • A creative project
    • Time & money saved
    • 10 high risk factors and strategies for dealing with them
    • Outer, middle & inner circle of support
    • Music as an aid to recovery
    • A goodbye letter to sex/love addiction
    • Own Relapse prevention plan

The program is suitable for weekly, twice weekly sessions or intensive through half days, whole days or residential setting.

The Changement Programme develops under these 4 themes:

Theme 1: How did I get here with this addiction?

  • Born into this world and as a new born baby the brand new brain now starts to collect impressions of life deposited as experiences on the new hard drive/blank CD/DVD of the brain using the five senses. Good, bad, indifference, neutral, those impressions are registered in the memory of the brain and you may not know they exist until in later years you react to a scenario in a particular way which catches even you by surprise. Pre-verbal initially, you cannot easily retrieve the memories because they were not processed, register and stored in the correct alphabetical order in the filing cabinet of the brain.
  • But those childhood experiences will have predisposed you/set you up with a propensity toward repeat behaviours in later years.
  • Childhood development is a key journey in the evolving imprints that will crystalise into a template which template you will play out now for the rest of adult life. What went into that template which crystalised at puberty, including the formation of the sexual template?
  • Attachment, Shame, Narcissism are being set up.
  • Trauma, Opportunity, Attachment issues are the 3 types that induce sex addiction and therefore become the triggers for ongoing “Acting Out”.

Theme 2: Coming to terms with sex/love addiction

  • Acknowledge it
  • Seek help
  • Extensive history Taking
  • How did I get here
  • Feedback and diagnosis: Sexual imprinting, Homeostasis & Cognitive neural restructuring.

Theme 3: What you need to know about sex/love

  • Psycho-Education
  • It does not fight fair
  • Impact on your relationships and partner
  • Harmful consequences

Theme 4: The tools and Relapse prevention strategies

  • Use of the tools for the longer term
  • Support: Continuing accountability, 12 Steps attendance, support structure working, 3 Circles, boundaries for self and partner, a creative project, time & money saved, 10 high risk factors and strategies for dealing with them, outer, middle & inner circle of support, music as an aid to recovery, a goodbye letter to sex/love addiction, own Relapse prevention plan.

Contemplative thoughts

  • For us to experience the greater things, a greater character must be fashioned in us.
  • Let hope arise and cause the darkness to hide.
  • Commit to a purpose that will out live you.
  • What happens in the mind of a man is always reflected in the disease of the body. • No man, for any period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which is the true one.

The program is suitable for weekly, twice weekly sessions or intensive through half days, whole days or residential setting.

“I have concluded that the accumulation of wealth, even if I could achieve it, is an insufficient reason for living. When I reach the end of my days, a moment or two from now, I must look back on something more meaningful than the pursuit of houses and land and machines and stocks and bonds. Nor is fame of any lasting benefit. I will consider my earthly existence to have been wasted unless I can recall a loving family, a consistent investment in the lives of people and an earnest attempt to serve the God who made me and nothing else makes much sense.”

The Kairos Centre

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What Our Clients Say…

“I was so ashamed of who I was. In my eyes, I was too ugly on the inside to reveal myself. I feared that if I did let people know, those I loved would totally reject and judge me for some of the things I’ve done. I struggled with love addiction because of some things that traumatised me through life finding that many of those incidents occurred in my childhood years. Kairos has been an amazing help on my journey of life. I have learnt so much about my brain and how it can be my best friend. I feel like my journey to freedom has begun. I’m hopeful of complete change and I’m learning to let go and love myself.”

Elliot, Bath

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