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You find yourself doing the very things you determine not to do and do not do the things that you desire to do. How does that happen? Maybe family scripts? The baton unwittingly passed on. Will you in turn pass the baton on as well? You can see repeated patterns in your past. The problems are often a recreation of unresolved and unprocessed childhood issues. If you could locate them, you would have done so by now and healed yourself.

What went into that template which crystalized at puberty? Predisposing matters come from the past and are already set in place and exist. We can’t change the past. They are historical. Knowing and better understanding them, however, enhances and enables you to go after them and effect change into your future.

Trauma, Opportunity, Attachment issues are the 3 types that induce sex porn and love addicts and are the triggers for ongoing “Acting Out”. Want to know more and better understand? Many people experience some type of wounding during early development and learn to manage their emotions, but sometimes it gets the better of them. Sex addiction is not about sex. Sex is a symptom of an underlying problem. Sex is not the problem. It is a symptom and an outlet. We do not see with our eyes. We see with our brain. Want to know more; to better understand sexual addictions treatment?

It is estimated that over 90% of Couples Partnerships and Marriage conflicts are around trying to get individual Core Emotional Needs met. This includes the individuals resort to Fight, Flight and/or Freeze. Alongside that, the individual often find themself compromising, trashing and undermining their dearly held “Values”, which (in other situations) they would not contemplate doing).

Sex Addict Therapy Sex Addiction, is otherwise called hypersexuality, Ego-dystonic Hypersexuality, Sexual Impulse Control Disorder, Sexual Compulsivity or Paraphilic and non-Paraphilic sexual behaviour. It is a maladaptive pattern of sexual behaviour leading to clinically significant impairment or distress, as manifested by three or more number of key markers [...]

Porn Addict Therapy. Porn addiction, like drugs and alcohol addiction, tends to require increase or vary over time. Therefore in order to get to the same level of arousal and stimulation, your behaviours may become more frequent or severe. Sexual compulsive and addiction behaviours include: Magazine pornography Internet [...]

Love Addict Therapy Love addiction is very real, and we can help provide Love Addict Therapy. Mostly seen in women, the Love addict has very intense emotions including anger, fear, hate and love for the other person. At its root hides issues of childhood insecure bonding and Attachment/Rejection/loss [...]

Support For Partners of Sex Addicts “Once again he/she gets the attention and is using up the household income on their own therapy and I am left carrying their stuff on my own”. This is an understandable complaint don’t you think? Partners, that is NOT how it ought [...]

Relationships Counselling In 2014 a group of artists in England asked thousands of people one question: “What is your happiest memory?” The responses were nearly always about relationships of one kind or another. There was a longing for relationship and home. Less than 1% mentioned material things.   [...]

Advanced Sexual Practices Advanced Sex Practices - advanced learnings for those who want to know & learn "bringing about healthy, progressive conversations about sex” Many Christians have a restricted view of what is right and not okay for Christians as a sexual outlet and activities in marriage. Unapologetically, these [...]

Anger, Resentment, Rage, Revenge as an outlet or is it more about Powerlessness & Fear? Handle the emotions; Release the emotions – Differently. Anger is not to be condemned or quashed. It is an appropriate physiological response, but being manifested in an inappropriate manner. Anger Management skills is not [...]

Gary McFarlane is an EMDR Association UK member and Accredited EMDR Practitioner What is EMDR ( Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing)? EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life [...]

Sex Therapy The Kairos Centre provide professional therapy and counselling across the full spectrum of Sex Therapy services for couples and individuals. Loss of Desire: “I know I should want to, but I can’t muster the desire. Is there something wrong with me? I don’t really miss [...]