Born into this world and as a new born baby the brand new brain now starts to collect impressions of life from the five senses, deposited as experiences on this new hard drive of the brain. Good, bad, neutral or indifference, those impressions are registered in the memory of the brain and you may not know they exist until in later years you react to a scenario in a particular way which catches even you by surprise.
Pre-verbal initially, you cannot easily retrieve the memories because they were not processed, register and stored in the correct alphabetical order in the filing cabinet of the brain. Yet those childhood experiences will have predisposed you (set you up) with a propensity toward repeat behaviours in later years.
What went into that template which crystalized at puberty, including the formation of the template? Attachment, Shame, Narcissism were perhaps set up in some people, but not recognized, understood or acknowledged. Many people experience some type of wounding during early development and learn to manage their emotions, but sometimes it gets the better of them. Want to know more and better understand?